It's a tough job....but someone has to do it.

     Being a parent often means doubting yourself, feeling guilty that you did (or didn't) do something, worry, insecurity.....and the list goes on and on.  Well-meaning parents can get confused by so many methods of discipline, studies and guidelines that are put forth by friends, family, and media.  Everyone seems to have a different way of parenting, and can be judgmental about the parenting style of others. And just when a parent thinks they are finally treading water, they add another one to the family!  

However, if parents would look to the teachings of the gospel and the guidelines of the Proclamation on the Family, we would find clear and specific answers for parenting.  

 

     Richard Miller's article entitled "Who's The Boss" gives wonderful gospel insight on family relationships.  He quotes several church leaders, and even the Proclamation, to solidify the truth that all families need leadership and direction the way the Lord has suggested. Understanding that the parents are leaders and that they should be united equally in leadership is the main theme of this article.  I have seen families destroyed as parents treat their children as friends instead of their steward.  I have seen other parent/child relationships crumble as adult children, eager for independence, are controlled by parents not allowing them freedom of choice.  So where is that "fine line" that produces well-adjusted, faithful, independent children?  I wish I had the answer for that!  Each children and each parent is different.  I think one of the best answers lay in Richard Miller's article.  A quote by Marion G Romney states, "They [husbands and wives] should be one in harmony, respect, and mutual consideration. Neither should plan or follow an independent course of action.  They should consult, pray, and decide together…"

 

     Working toward a common goal of raising children in the gospel, and praying for direction and guidance, is the best way for parents to address different issues that confront families in today's society. Being a parent is hard work!  But I LOVE Elder Holland's quote from this last general conference, "To all mothers in every circumstance, including those who struggle—and all will—I say, 'Be peaceful. Believe in God and yourself. You are doing better than you think you are."  It takes away the sting and replaces it with hope, knowing that the Lord will not leave us alone in our stewardship if we only seek Him.